15 years ago, I became acquainted with an incredibly powerful tool. This tool called the Process Communication Model® (PCM) opened my eyes to many truths about myself, my behavior, and especially how, practically, I could feed my psychological battery with common everyday activities. I learned that not everyone gets energized by the same type of activities. Some get a positive rush from sitting on a parc bench, alone, watching passers-by, and letting their imagination gallop away. Some get this same rush from hearing the sound of the pen scratch an item on their to-do list to mark it completed. Yet others get it from sitting in their favorite cozy seat, curled up with their treasured soft blanket, a hot cup of tea, and sharing some deep intimate conversation on Facetime with their best friend.
What is amazing is that once I gained awareness of this truth, it really revolutionized my life.
I have now incorporated activities in my routines that boost my battery. I find myself better equipped to handle life stressors, difficult circumstances, and conflicts. When I take the time to draw myself a warm bath with nice smelling bubbles and savor the feel of the warm water on my skin before getting under the soft covers of my cozy bed, I sleep better and wake up feeling refreshed the next day. When I congratulate myself for my contribution to my business and receive feedback on the positive impact my coaching sessions have had, I experience a real energy boost. I now take time to allow myself to savor these activities by being present in the moment.
What activities do you find really nourish your person? Do you give yourself permission to do them? And if you do, how much do you savor doing them?
PCM defines 8 different psychological needs. The model teaches that every individual has all 8 needs within them and that satisfying these needs positively brings balance to one’s psyche. Learning about this aspect of the model was a key moment for me and implementing its suggestions made a difference both in my personal and professional life.
How did you get up this morning? What was your mood when you set your foot on the bedroom floor? As you opened your eyes, coming out of slumber, what came first? Jacqueline, my wife, always sets her alarm early ; as she is waking up, she allows her surrounding to fill her senses, enjoying the warmth and coziness of her bed, taking pleasure in these few minutes of cuddling before getting out of bed. I do this very differently: I wake up, and in a second, I am up and moving around, going through the motions, putting my glasses on my nose, collecting my slippers, ready to start my day. Not that I necessarily know what the day will look like! It is only after a certain time that my rational brain kicks in and I start wondering what is planned for the day. How about you? How does your world look first thing in the morning? The Process Communication Model® teaches that, depending on our personality structure, there are six ways to perceive the world: Opinions, Thoughts, Emotions, Reflections, Actions, Reactions. Furthermore, each of us naturally and often without awareness FIRST connect with our environment with our favorite perception. And it’s only later – like in my case when my brain kicks in – that we activate the other perceptions as the need requires. The same happens when we connect with people. Do you want to know more? Why don’t you contact us at info@bbco.be or visit our website at www.bbco.be? Have a good day.
L’histoire est remplie de nombreux exemples de nations qui sont entrées en guerre sur base de malentendu (prétexté ou réel). Les nations ne sont pas les seules à faire face aux conflits suite à des malentendus.
Conflit issu d’un malentendu
Nous en sommes tous témoins, en tant que victimes ou acteurs, que ce soit sur le lieu du travail, dans les relations entre couple ou entre parents et enfants.
Le coût des malentendus est immense, que ce soit en terme financier ou émotionnel.
Eviter ce genre de conflit revient souvent à éviter la mécommunication. La solution est d’entrer dans l’univers de nos interlocuteurs, de comprendre comment ils fonctionnent, d’apprendre à parler leurs langage et ainsi minimiser les malentendus et les conflits.
Studies show that many students whose behavior is interpreted as ADHD (Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) are in fact « misdiagnosed » by teachers with statistically significant differences in personality from that of the student. Teachers trained in the Process Communication Model® are better able to adapt their communication and teaching styles and thus « bridge the gap » in mutual understanding.
